Updated: Mar 16
I am always trying to see the positive in life, and be more positive as a person – but it is never by far easy! We’re only human, so we can’t be our best every single day, or can we?
I mean this girl has been through a lot, and I am still surprised of how well I am actually doing, and certain that I will continue in doing great! – If you want something as bad as you want to breath, you’ll soon achieve it! See that there? Positivity!
2018 hasn’t been the most tremendous of years with losing 4 loved ones in the space of four months, but I’ve been fighting that battle in my own way and gained more productivity in what I wish to do in life, and how I wish to be as a person. Still learning my way through here though yo!
More often than not, I find myself veering toward a positive attitude. (It’s something I never would have done years ago!) I firmly believe that this is because I’ve trained myself to be positive!
It doesn’t always come naturally for me, sometimes it’s a lot of work, but I’ve taken three steps that make it so much easier for me to see the good in life.
1 – Gratitude
One of the quickest ways to shift your focus away from negativity, judgment, and disappointment is to list the things in your life for which you are grateful. I know you’re probably thinking well durh?! – But actually this has really helped me.
You could simply take more walks, appreciate that beautiful flower you see along the way and be thankful you can have this opportunity. You could even start journaling and write 3 things that you are grateful for every single day, it could be as simple as having that damn good coffee in the morning! Or even give meditation ago! It works wonders – I’ve tried it!
2 – Believe a positive attitude is a choice
This step was hard to take at first. I thought that people were either positive or negative (and I was in the latter category). I used to blame my negativity on all kinds of outside forces like fate, parents, relationships, experiences — but never really stopped to think that I could actually choose to be positive!
Teaching myself that positivity is a choice has been one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself.
Now when I find myself in a bad situation, I know that it’s up to me to find the good, to be positive regardless of what’s happening around me. I no longer point fingers and place blame. I realize that everything happens how it happens, and it’s up to me to choose how I want to feel about it. I am in control of my attitude, and no one can take that away from me. That is a superpower my friend!
3 – Out with the negativity and in with the positivity
If you want to live a positive, & content life you cannot be surrounded by negative people who don’t encourage your happiness – simple.
As a negative person, I attracted negative people. When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of the most negative influences in it. No one is perfect, and perfection isn’t the goal when it comes to positivity, however there were people in my life who were consistently negative when there was no need, who constantly brought me down, and I had to stop spending so much time with them.
This, as you can imagine, wasn’t easy. It can hurt to distance yourself from people, even when you know they aren’t good for you or your current lifestyle. Once you do make that move though, you realise how much better things can be.
In addition to removing negative influences from my life, I also had to get rid of some of my own negative behaviors, such as putting myself down all the time, never believing in myself, always being in the past, and alcohol abuse. I had to take a step back and examine which behaviors were good for me and which were not.
I learned to focus on the positive things I was doing, such as working on my blog and cultivating new, positive relationships, and let go of the negative ones. This process was not easy as I said and, to be honest, is still ongoing, but I know this: It’s hard to live a positive life when negative people and behaviors continually pull you down.
Quick Tip – I found it really helpful in reading self development books, and one of my favourites is ‘You are a Badass’ – You can find this on amazon.